Drama / Sniping / Honesty
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It seems that I am going to be to blame for a member leaving, simply because I confronted her about a post she had made which looked to be accusing me of being a bully and shaming someone based on copying. I said that I would be happy to explain what was going on, and the next thing I know, she has deleted her account.
This is on top of someone deleting the post in its entirety about copying, because she didn't want her name associated with the drama.
Frankly, I cannot stand drama. It doesn't appear that way, though, does it? But I'll be darned if someone is going to snipe at what appears to be me and have me let it slide....especially when they compare it to "all the hungry children in the world". Now since they didn't bother to take the time to work it out with me, so be it. I guess those of you who want to see it that way will see me as responsible.
This has made me quite angry. I never set out to be the Polyvore Police, so to speak, either here or there, and it's not something I want to take on. I did it to help someone. I don't regret helping. I do regret that it had to be done, and I do regret that it had to be done the way it was done, because it looked bad. I don't care how it reflected on me, but I do care what it said about the others involved - and they were not at fault for my choices. Don't hold them accountable, please. Let things move on from here.
As far as I am concerned, this has left a bad taste in my mouth for this place, when all I wanted to do was create. I was excited to start a group, and now I feel that even that has been tainted, because how are they going to trust me? So I need a volunteer to take that group, and if I don't get one, I'll just shut it down when I go.
I'll be coming back, under another name, and I won't be getting involved in anything. This is supposed to be a refuge for me, and I'll make it one by just staying out of everything. I've come to care about a lot of you, but I'll not get involved with people's problems at the expense of my mental health, and that's what it came down to. My mental health is now affected, and it's my responsibility to fix that.
I apologize to all who have been negatively affected by this. I truly wish it had not come to this.
Please let me know if you'd like to take over my group.
Thanks,
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Jo, I have been your friend for a long time and I know you are fair, honest and full of integrity. I wish I was aware of this incident, I would have backed you up on the copying. Calling someone out for it is not bullying, if they felt shame, then that is their problem. Please reconsider leaving, just give it a break for a few days, that's what I had to do with the last round of drama, which I did get involved in. Let it go for tonight and just know it is not your fault that whomever left, left. Obviously you touched a nerve, and you know what that means. If they left, it shows their shame, not anything you did wrong.
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Jo, a suggestion...
Sleep on it. Wait three days and nights before you delete this account, and remove all the time and effort you've put into it, and disconnect from your followers and all the friends you have made. In a few days, you will feel better. Just take a break if you need to.Why start over? New sets? New collections? New name? Why not stick around and let those who don't care for your approach just drop off? They will, ya know. They'll get tired of the drama, too. In the meantime, you can block them.
You just started a wonderful new group and I'm very excited about it. Many of us are. You're not expected to love everyone on UrStyle or anywhere else. Conflict can happen. You said what you needed to about the circumstances, and made yourself, and your position clear. Let those who don't support who you are just fade away into the background. Don't let their silliness cause you to stop interacting. You're a strong, outspoken woman, and not everyone will be comfortable with that or will agree with you. Who cares? Those people are not your people. 
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I hope you don't go, Jo! I've just gotten to know you and I think you are a wonderful woman. I hope you will sleep on this and realize that this is going to pass away. We all have your back and we always will. Please listen to your dear friends and give it a few days.
Hugs, Nikki xx
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Jo~ I hope you reconsider and decide to stay. You are one of the most honest, friendliest and approachable people on here and everything you say is from your heart and with good intention.
If someone can't see that then so be it. They can go. They may decide to come back and work it out. Maybe they were having a bad day.
I realize it feels awful to be accused of something and not being able to work it out or stand up for yourself is not fair.So many of us have your back and this WILL pass and be forgotten. Soon you will look back on it.
Thanks for being who you are. You make so many of us smile!smiling and sending hugs, Korinne
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I don't know you well, but I see your passion, talent, & enthusiasm for creating. I hope you choose to stay.
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Oh sweetie, another one here who adores you, don't know who else is 'involved in this' and I don't care, I care about you and understand trying to preserve our mental health, most of use who spend most all day on here and sometimes way into the night, have various health problems, urstyle is our therapy, helps us keep our sanity. As I said the other day with my remarks ''of drama queens'', we can't please everyone, and in life many people simple won't like us. Some things we can't control, life isn't fair, but we somehow carry on. To leave and start over, I hope you consider not to do that, be cause you will have erased the beautiful soul, we your friends have come to love, please don't take that beautiful you from us. Take a break if need be for a few days, because once you remove your self you can't get that back, poof all your beauty created and put your heart and soul into will be gone, God bless you sweetie!
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I have no idea what this was about, I don't know you that well but please stay. take a few days off instead of leaving
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No don't go!
People can't blame you for deleting their own account. I'm not sure what happened but PLEASE DON'T GO! You have tried to help people and have helped me!
I understand though mental health does come first and if you need a break away from here then I understand that, but please think about leaving.
You're wanted here and a wonderful set maker and friend. You'll be sorely missed.xxx
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@gypsy-jo Knowing nothing about whatโs going on, still, please stay! Do not leave! Stand firm! And most of all, be yourself, keep your group, and allow those like myself to De-Stress thru making fun sets with your group!!!
Urstyle is a Stress Release for me, and I admire your style, keep up the good work -
@halloweenismyfav I second that! In every way!
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What beautiful souls you are. Thank you for taking the time to reply to this, to care about me, to show friendship, to offer support, and most of all - for some excellent advice.
In the heat of an emotional reaction to what had been a great deal of negativity, yes, I made a poor decision, and I am so glad that you all talked to me about waiting. Now that I am calmer, and have spent some time away, I do want to stay, to maintain my name and my account, and to continue creating and preserve my friendships, and to keep the group I had been so excited about beginning.
To have lost that over an emotional decision would have been foolish. Thank you all for having my back...especially to those of you who don't know me well and stepped in anyway - you remind me of myself, and bless you for caring!
Huge hugs, and gratitude to you all. Oh....and really sloppy smooches.
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@HalloweenIsMyFav -
Glad you have decided to let us keep our gypsy-jo. We need you here and you need us. Tomorrow is new day, a new day to create and be with us, the people who adore you. Have a rest sweetie, glad you are staying, God bless with hugs
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@gypsy-jo Woo Hoo!!! So glad you are staying!!! Can't wait to get into contests in the new group!!! Hugs to you!!! Nikki xx
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@gypsy-jo Yay! I'm so happy you're staying
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@gypsy-jo Great news, glad you are staying
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@Gypsy-Jo So glad you are staying!!! Hugs
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@gypsy-jo YAYAY
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@gypsy-jo I'm so glad! You do sound better!
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@gypsy-jo I knew you couldn't resist us!
THRILLED you'll remain here!
