@wildcupcake Oh, goodness gracious, @WildCupcake! I’ve explained my responses to you. Both my responses and my explanations were written respectfully. You posted questions that you wanted us to consider, and I DID consider those questions. I just happened to disagree. Big deal! There’s nothing personal in that.
I’m confused about you’re not wanting to be “addressed”. I was not aware (until your previous post) that you didn’t want any responses whatsoever, for any reason, to your questions. I did not see anything definitive stating that you simply wanted to pose questions for us to consider and that it was to “be left at that”.
What you’d stated initially was: “I'll start with a few basic questions, ones that don't require an answer…” Saying that your questions “don't require an answer” is not the same as saying you don’t want anyone to answer your questions under any circumstances.
You now state that: “…I merely said I wanted people to consider the questions that I posed. That neither implied nor denied discussion.” Since your questions did not deny discussion, why are you so upset that I responded? Again, I ask you: Would you be this upset if I’d agreed with you?
I’m truly baffled at your reaction. You’re reacting as if I attacked you, which I most certainly did not. From what I wrote, as well as reading what others have written to you, I don’t see anything suggesting that you’re “the bad guy”. And let me remind you that I was referring to UrStyle requesting donations as being “unreasonable”, not you being unreasonable. So, what am I missing?
You clarified your “terms” (for lack of a better word) by recently posting:
• I wasn't here to debate it.
• I wasn't here to discuss it.
• I merely posed some questions to ask them to consider another point of view, and it was intended to be left at that.
You seem to have your own set of rules as it comes to posting in a community forum, yet you also seem to misinterpret what I’ve said and/or why I’ve said it. Never did I state or imply that I wanted to debate with you or anyone else. A discussion exploring both sides of the donation issue would have been welcome; a discussion with those who wished to explore the subject further.
I did not poke beehives, as you put it, or tear your posts apart. Seriously? This may be how you see and react to my replies, but you’re incorrect. I expressed my opinions about the donation issue and used factual information (such as UrStyle’s Terms of Service) to illustrate why my opinions are what they are. It was not directed at you. It was offered for anyone who may have been interested.
What really has me stumped is your out-of-nowhere remark: “You can make every single person on here think I'm nuts (and yes, you can spread what you know about me far and wide, if that's your choice).”
Where the hell did that come from? Why on earth would I ever want to be so sadistic and cruel as to attempt to persuade anyone to think anything negative about you? I can separate a person from a difference of option I may have with them. Not agreeing with your point of view does not affect how others respond to you, nor does it affect my personal feelings for you.
@wildcupcake I’m not trying to make things right. I did nothing wrong. I shared my opinions, just as you did. I pushed nothing. Well, maybe I pushed your buttons, but that wasn’t my intention. Telling you to ‘chill’ was simply telling you to relax; everything’s okay. It does not imply that you ‘lost it’, as you put it. Not at all. I welcome any examples you care to share with me about “jabs” you feel I made toward you personally. I was serious when I asked you about upvotes. That was not a jab. I really want to know what your boundaries are. Again, you seem to have specific rules on how we are, and how we are not, to reply to you.
Obviously, you and I interpret things very differently and those differences seem to be unhealthy and destructive rather than perceived as opportunities to expand and share with one another in a safe and meaningful way. Therefore, I understand and respect your decision to end our friendship. I do not agree with your reasons. Some make no sense whatsoever, and others seem childish. And guess what? It’s okay if you don’t agree with me on that! It doesn’t change the respect I have for you.
Wishing you the very best,
FJG
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